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It’s never too late to EAT, PRAY and LOVE! … (1 of 3)

I didn’t think that I would be too far behind with this entry. I didn’t get the chance to end the year 2010 on this page properly. Everything just went in a huff and before I knew it, it’s already Valentine’s Day! that is filling in the air.

I remember stopping by at Blockbuster to grab a movie or two to watch on Christmas day. We did our gift giving with families on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day was a time to reflect and celebrate in our own house, quite peacefully, just the way I planned it to be.

I spent Christmas with the company of 6 equally fabulous and self-made women – one can’t choose over the other. I wouldn’t mind having a piece of each one of their banner qualities, if I can.

Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. They’re too much fun! If there is one thing that I most admire among the four of them, it’s their friendship! It surpassed many changing roles, issues, expectations and experiences true to the current times, especially of their age group tackling their own chosen profession and flow of life in the city. They may all be just fictional characters, but Candace Bushnell, depicted well in true form the different types of women in the series – tough on the outside but vulnerable on the inside (Carrie); confident, rollicking but succumbs to love when it happens and then bounce back to life again (Samantha); conservative, a typical straight woman who chooses a traditional romantic outlook in love than lust, and do-everything for marriage but bust it for divorce if must (Charlotte); and logical, cautious and calculating, almost stoic in the beginning but soft, caring on the inside, and inspiring because of her stable and determined character (Miranda). I know who I can relate more among the 4 of them. What about you?

And how did they touch my life in a matter of 2 hours … (well, technically, not including the hundreds of hours that I’ve followed the series on TV)?

I love the characters! I admire the author, Candace Bushnell! It is telling me that when women reach the age of 40 … the more the saying makes sense … Life has just begun! Being in the 40s calls for celebration! It is the age when you are already smart enough and never too afraid to use your wisdom and experiences to go through life. It’s a sweet spot, I would say. No one can tell you that you can’t do one thing, because you know that you’ve already done that. No one can tell you that when you do such thing that this is what is going to happen, because you already knew that. And no one can tell you what you can’t do, because you knew so well that no one, really, can dictate your inner and mature sense and sensibility to do whatever it is that makes you happy.

Here’s what I’m thinking more – let me share with you a piece of an article that I came across in relation to women over 40s –

A woman over 40 will not lay next to you in bed and ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”

Here’s an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire Pig, just to get a little sausage….

(Sorry, I meant no offense to those whose notions and beliefs are totally opposite to the testament above).

There are so many highlights in the Sex & the City 2 movie and undeniably, lots of fun moments it felt like I was one with them. I think that each one of us can relate to a fraction or probably most of the character of Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte or Miranda. And the shoes … the big closet … I don’t think I have ever met a woman who doesn’t or has never had an affair with shoes!

(To be continued)

 It’s never too late to EAT, PRAY and LOVE! … (2 of 3)

 

Eloise.  In Love Happens, Jennifer Aniston (Eloise) played the character of a hotel florist who just got out of a bad relationship then met Burke, a motivational speaker, who falls for her.  It may sound like it’s just one of those typical love story where they’re both broken-hearted, fate brought them together, they bounced into a relationship, they were happy then something went wrong and will they get back together again?- type of a plot that will fill the box office.  But it’s different.  It’s not the usual feel good and they live happily ever after movie.  But yes, they landed on each other’s arms as a couple in the end.  The story is, as Jennifer says, “two layers deeper than that”. 

 

The movie trailer pretty much sums up the story, but here are some of the beautiful lessons I’ve picked up while watching it –

That Happiness is a state of mind and like all things, it takes practice.  Life can be tough at times and it’s a reality and part and parcel of our journey on earth.  But we can change our path if we make the right choices.  One of the simple choices that we can adopt every time, is to change our state of mind, from sad to being happy, from being a loser to a winner, from not so pretty to beautiful inside out.  Or better simply put, prescribe yourself 5 minutes a day to smiling … just smiling.  Trust me, after a while it will come out naturally.

If Happiness is a state of mind, and so does fear! Remember, fear is a clear expression or apprehension of something that is negative.  The acronym does not stand for F Everything And Run!  Turn every opportunity where fear is present in to something affirmative, because FEAR is False Evidence/Emotions Appearing Real.  Fear is only good if it works positively for your own betterment!

Burke is a motivational speaker in the movie who bolsters people to rise up from the torment brought by the death of their loved ones.   While he proves himself as an effective motivator, deep inside he’s struggling himself from his own sufferings when his wife died in a car accident. 

Granted the situation, Burke was telling people in the movie to take the courage to kick the pain right where it hurts.   We do not need a death of a loved one to put us in this state.  Sometimes, just in our daily grind, we do have disappointments that are beyond our regimentation.  We stumble, but remember, we CAN’T linger! The only way to move forward is to divert the focus of our eyes from the rear view mirror and deviate our mind from the condition of being stuck!

When something ends, something else begins – just like every year, there’s Christmas!  … there comes Easter! … there is New Year … and look, what do we have today?! … Valentine’s Day!

Whatever you do and whichever part of the world you are today …  whether  you feel you’re in a rut or stuck or facing a dead-end road … there is hope!  And I don’t believe that the red, heart-shaped organ in your body does not pump L-O-V-E!  It does … and it makes you feel alive!  so PUMP it away!  LOVE happens …

 

(To be continued)

 It’s never too late to EAT, PRAY and LOVE! … (Final Part)

 

Liz Gilbert. What other good adjectives and positive reviews have not been said about the American writer, novelist, and short story writer, Liz Gilbert, and her recently acclaimed and best seller book, “Eat, Pray & Love”? It talks about her journey going through the intricacies of life, marriage and divorce and later searching for inner peace, happiness and herself through her travels in Italy, India and Indonesia. Liz writes the same way she speaks – spontaneous, in circumspect and attuned to reality. People can relate to her story, except not all can easily pack up their clothes and go on a hiatus, like she did. Liz’s spiritual exploration and course of adventure in finding her human side in the story embrace and encompass humanity. EAT, PRAY, and LOVE make perfect sense.

I’d like to share with you the many parts of the movie that touched my senses to the bones that even after I finished watching the movie, I still keep reading my notes if only to constantly remind myself of the things I should do while there is still time.

Look through the world not with your head but through your heart. That way, you know God! Furthermore, “To find the balance you want, this is what you must become. You must keep your feet grounded so firmly on the earth that it’s like you have four legs, instead of two. That way, you can stay in the world”.  This really confuses me in the sense that when we try to connect in this world nor look through it, we think first of our characteristics as a human being to fit in to what we need to do or become.   That way, it would be easier to find commonality and spirituality.  But when I attempt to define the word “human” itself,  I thought of the good qualities of a “being” such as, a beautiful creation who is compassionate, forgiving, generous, etc.  And then it takes me to the other reference for where people are practical, realistic and egotistic! The beautiful concept of a human being is sometimes defeated by the worldly attributes of our environment.  That is why, it becomes difficult to consociate with people philosophically and in an extra mundane way, as well as balance oneself with the world.  Remember how we hate getting automated answering system when we try to reach for help on our telephone? That’s the closest interpretation that I can give for this “words of wisdom”.   Hard as it is to admit, humans have forgotten to become human in many ways and situations.  And looking through the world not with our head or through our heart, has now become an option on a case to case basis.  When we are trapped in the midst of spiritual wilderness, sometimes the way to enlightenment is looking beyond what is visible to the eyes, in yonder substance rather than relying on words that are somewhat gibberish or clear but meaningless, and gratification over and above satisfaction.

In the movie, Liz’s best friend, Delia has been keeping a box even before marriage. She fills this box with baby stuff until her husband is ready to get married and start their family. Liz, however, has a vintage luggage full of maps and travel guides for different parts of the world. She hopes to travel and explore the earth someday. Practice the Law of Attraction! “The law of attraction states, that which is like unto itself is drawn. What that means is if you are maintaining a vibration that matches what you are wanting; more things will come your way to make you feel that way”. I remember my friend from highschool, Kereiks, when I asked her why she applied for a travel passport when she didn’t even know at that time when she’s ever going to travel!? Obviously, she was looking forward  to travelling the world and she’s preparing herself for it … by having the faith that someday she will!  And she did! The Law of Attraction applies to negativity and ill feelings as well.  They do not need to be attracted to your life and therefore deserve no space and time in your heart and mind.

Do you feel the need to be unnerved?! I especially feel this when I am chasing time and life, every day and in every step of the way. It’s almost success is an arm’s reach and nothing or no one can break my drive, passion and focus to reach my goals. But actually, I find that the times when I get agitated, intimated and broken into pieces, as an opportunity to regroup and be abstracted with my normal senses, be still and become symmetrical to the physical and cyclical world as well as the divinity of my existence.

I especially like the attitude that Italians are known for. They have so much passion in life albeit their hard work. People, like Italians, should know how to seek pleasure as much as they work hard. “They don’t need to be told. They walk by a sign that says, “they deserve a break” and then they say, “I know!”. Ever know what “Dolce far Niente” means? It means sweetness of doing nothing! It means that if you have labored hard for 5 days, especially with long hours at work, don’t even feel guilty sitting on a recliner on a Sunday watching an old movie on Encore Channel.

EAT like a muffin top doesn’t matter. I can never explain much about this, because I eat much no matter what. But really, if you try to decipher every word of it, it’s saying do whatever makes you feel good, as long as you are hurting no one, including yourself.

PRAY. Be in touched with the spiritual part of life. If you do not understand a thing about it, keep silence. Silence is a wonderful practice, so one could speak! We’re only creations of somebody higher than us and so there are a lot of things that are beyond our control and that we can’t really carry out ourselves. Surrender and prepare to accept. Often times, people forget the importance of meditation. It is a wonderful gift that we can give ourselves to be able to go back to our inner sanctity and sanity. “Select your thoughts like you select your clothes”. Cultivate them. Control them. “Decorate it like you’re decorating your room!”

And LOVE! … But before doing so, learn to forgive yourself. While it is not easy, there is always a way and a time to slowly absorb forgiveness in to your mind, body and soul. One just has to let this power in. And once you have learned to let go and let God, Atraverziamo! (In Italy, it means “Let’s cross over!”) Love will set you free!

It is never too late to change, or at least take an attempt to find peace, balance, love and joy in one’s heart. Eat, Pray and Love, isn’t just a movie or a book or a story. It’s a lesson … It was a wisdom imparted. I didn’t have to go to Italy, India or Indonesia to stir up my core and not let my mind drift away to what is most important in life … Liz Gilbert took me there. The book, which is a labor of life experiences, is a remarkable creation of true human being. Not a product of fiction. Or pigment of imagination. More than anything else, it helped me become at peace with myself and embrace who I am and what I am capable of.

Well, I guess you can say, I was just imagining about the six women that joined me on Christmas Day – Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, Miranda, Eloise and Liz! – I am, but their impact on my outlook in life has changed for real! You too can benefit from my virtual experience on the night of December 25th. It is never too late to EAT, PRAY and LOVE!

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